Homeschooling 101

So you want to homeschool.

I often get many questions and blessings about homeschooling. It is usually followed up by statements like, “I wish I could homeschool but I don’t know where to start.” or “I don’t have the time.” Well I am here to bust both of those questions and many more in this blog to help you get started.

First, in case you do not know, I am a Business owner of a small consulting firm called Rush Consulting Firm. This business is my pride and joy. It is one I built from the ground up and am able to work anytime and anywhere. With that being said, though my schedule is very flexible, it is still a very demanding position as I wear many hats within the company. So while I can bend my schedule like some of you may not be able to, that also means I work, oftentimes, into the early morning hours of the day. I do get tired and I do get cranky but homeschooling is definitely something I am committed to. I have a cheat for those moments that will allow you a moment to breathe and regather yourself while your children still learn even without you around.

I will say right up front that I do not follow any type of curriculum, I do what I call ‘free teaching’. What that means is while there are a plethora of academic platforms to educate your children, I choose, for personal reasons, not to use any of them.

I will admit that I was thoroughly confused as to where to start and what to teach but I was, and still am, so determined to educate my children according to what I now know as an adult as well as where they are currently in the own educational position that I had to put in some creative work and research to better advance the minds of my children.

I will also forewarn you that, I am all about teaching my children self love and self respect in addition to others, which is something that is not taught in the public school, or private school for that matter, education system. I believe in positive affirmations and daily reminders of who they are and what they can accomplish while including their fellow peers.

For starters, I enrolled in Homeschool Legal Defense Association in the event that I incur any legal issues, because I’m going to be honest, as a black woman I am always mindful of my rights as a parent and I am also aware that I am still black. (That is my stance and it is not up for debate.)

Let me tell you why I pulled my children from the public school system.

My oldest son has always been an advanced honor student who had made a’s and B’s his entire life through the eighth grade, when he was enrolled in High School, I was told he had to go to a particular school which was predominately black. In my experience since moving to the south, That usually means less care (teachers not being paid their worth, struggling academically, less resources, etc) but I didn’t know then what I know now and I went along even against my better judgement because my son was smart. Well, turns out, I was correct. While there were a handful of awesome teachers and administrative staff there, my son kept coming home with straight F’s. Now I am no fool, I know my son paid a part in this as well, however, I should have known this school was not going to give my child the push I know he needed to continue to accelerate.

My other oldest was diagnosed with ADHD, I am not even going to get into that whole agenda. But due to this, he struggled in school because the teacher, due to lack of understanding and compassion, would simple place him in the back of the class, oftentimes giving him an attitude for asking questions, and write inappropriate notes on his papers and in his planner.

My oldest daughter was too smart for the level she was in and often would simply be advocated as teachers assistant to help teach her peers in class. I could already see that this was going to lead down a road to boredom and failing grades.

So, I pulled them. All 5 who were currently enrolled in the Public school system. Now there are 7 technically but of course my rule is, ‘If I’m teaching, you’re learning’ so all 9 are in class Monday through Friday with light review work on the weekends. I am free to teach my children on any level I please, because again, I do not follow any curriculum.

How do I do it? Google. Just kidding. That is my starting point however. I literally googled ‘What should my child know by the end of [whatever grade they are in]. I teach all of my children a level up and that is where the weekend review comes in, That is stuff ‘on their level’ to be sure I am not moving too fast and they know what they should.

For my littles, I go to the dollar tree and get the educational workbooks. I take them home and dismantle them into one page lessons. I separate the by grade level and I make packets that consist of 5 to 6 pages (they are front and back, so you end up with 10 to 12 pages of work. I designate the packets into their individual work spaces and in the mornings, they know to grab a packet and get started. You can do this up the fifth grade from the dollar tree but Barnes and Nobles also have activity books up to the eighth grade that you can do this with. It usually takes them anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour or more to complete these daily packets. Then you can take a break or continue on teaching.

We have a Goodwill here that sells by the bulk. Thank goodness for this because its where I get most of my academic books from. I believe the books are 50 cents a pound versus 2.99 a book at regular Goodwill stores. I have every level of every book you need to graduate your child from high school and probably college. Anything from literature to microeconomics. My oldest even works from some college books we have. My children excel daily and I can see it. That is something I never experienced in public schools. We also use Khan Academy which is available on an app as well as youtube. My children utilize it for a clearer understanding of what I teach in class in addition to jumping ahead.

I signed up for ABC mouse for my 3-6 year old children but it was too easy and they breezed through it in one day, so I cancelled my subscription. I have learned that my children, and I am sure many others, learn much better in a one on one environment. And while I have nine children I teach, They still get plenty of one on one everyday.

I buy index cards and everything goes on them! Colors, shapes, numbers, sight words, alphabets, addition, subtraction, multiplication, sentences structures, you name it and I am pretty sure I have a stack of flash cards.

The state I am in mandates 4.5 hours a day of learning, and I know some of you may say, I just don’t have four hours to dedicate. Well, remember, this does not have to be a consecutive four hours but also this includes self or Montessori style teaching as well, remember those packets?

Also, trips to the grocery store can be used as a math lesson. Trips to the zoo can be a counted as a science trip. A family trip can be a geography lesson. Paying bills can be an economics lesson. So keep these little things in mind.

I have been slow to put this together because I want to make sure I cover most, if not all of your questions. It does not have to be hard. If you have a difficult child, it will do you and him/her some good to spend more time together to better learn one another. They are human too and thus have emotions. Having sessions discussing this could also be counted as a psychology lesson. <—- See what I did there?

So in closing, Be creative, take charge of your child’s growth and development. Trust me, You will never regret it! You will definitely learn as well along the way. And if you have any questions, I am always available. My contact information is on the front page of the blog.

-Rush

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Sweet dreams. 

I dreamed of her last night. It was the most vivid dream I have ever had of her. She was beautiful. I cannot forget her face; I don’t want to.

This dream, I have had before but never like this. I was able to interact instead of being this week vessel watching and doing nothing as I have always done. This time I held her. I held her close and I held her tight almost consuming her into my essence.

It was the last time I saw her alive. She just looked at me and our eyes locked for a moment and I had second thoughts, and thirds until I just walked away before I changed my mind about leaving her. It was for the best is what I kept telling myself, although I didn’t believe it. That is my last memory of her alive and it keeps playing over and over in my dreams. I don’t have any regrets in my life because I know that by changing one little ripple of life, my waves would be totally different now. But if I could change one thing with no repercussions and still be in this very moment, I would have taken her with me. My spirit tells me that is a bad idea because she died because it was her time, and had she been with me her time would still be up.

McRush asked me what I was sure of when he woke me from this dream and we talked about it. Death. Death was my answer. That is all I am sure of in life. Death is not judgmental and has no respect of persons, it is imminent. It doesn’t care if you are a bad person or a good person, you are going to die. That is why I do not fear it. I do not fear death  because its going to happen. What I do fear is the pain and suffering it will leave upon  my family.

I search for the truth and I live for the truth. I stand in my truth no matter how ugly it may be sometimes. That’s all I can do. Sometimes the truth hurts because truth is nothing more than the reality in which we live. And the truth is, she is never coming back to me and that is a painful feeling. I would have assumed, being the person I am that This would not be affecting me like it does eight years later, I’m just not that kind of person but I guess it is true what they say, you never stop mourning the loss of a child. I think about her, I want to see her. I want to hold her and tell her that I love her even though we are energies apart. I would rather have died with her but that is not entirely true because my children would be mourning me and I cannot bare that thought.

If you know me at all, you know I am not sentimental, touchy, or even intentionally give off much loving affection but losing a part of my heartbeat is enough to make you change that…just a little, no mushy stuff.

Well, its 5:19 am and I am beyond mentally drained. I couldn’t sleep because all I could think about is putting my thoughts and emotions on paper (or in this case, blog). Now that I have done that I am going to try to lay down for a few.

The picture is the last time I would see her see me. I love you Madison.

Love, Mommy

-Rush

 

 

Accountability in the Black community

I recently posted on Facebook;

There is a lot of blame going around in our communities but no accountability. We have to start being honest with ourselves Reflections. Ase’
With that being said, I decided to take a moment to reflect on my own accountability of the negative statistics within our communities as a whole. Of course I know that my Philadelphia roots and Florida upbringing do not directly affect the Texas statistics but I am talking about US as a whole which is something we need to start focusing more on instead of concentrating on “just me”. I am aware that we need to concentrate on ourselves sometimes but we also must keep in mind the bigger picture.

I have decide to make a list of the things I personally am responsible for in addition to a list that I also contribute to the black community, not for the purposes of justifying or otherwise erasing what I did to negatively affect us but for the purpose of showing growth. Well, here it goes.

I have negatively affected the statistics of the black community in many ways. I dropped out of high school and was a habitual runaway. I hung out with what I knew was the wrong crowd resulting in getting taken into a juvenile detention facility at the age of 15. I was promiscuous, though never resulting in pregnancy, in my teenage years (16-17). I engaged in a cohabiting relationship that resulted in children out of wedlock. I was married and divorced twice. While in college I stripped, not for school but for extra money. I was a habitual liar up until I was about 19 years old. I had no regards to the wise words that my elders spoke to me about. I stayed in a religion that affected me mentally into believing that suffering was the only way to please God (paraphrasing). I deliberately sabotage some blessings by believing I was not good enough and I let that esteem trickle down to my children. I intentionally kept my son away from his father resulting in me being a single parent for years and it was a strained and bitter relationship resulting in a broken child.

Those are my blames that I accept responsibility for and hold myself accountable everyday. These are also the things that attribute to my desire to make amends with myself for my own brokenness and my life vow to do better not only for me but for the community as a whole.

Here is my short, but growing, list of contributions I make to our community now.

I stopped lying (long ago). I went back to school to get my GED and went on to study Law, although I have not completed yet.I have started several small businesses, not just for myself but others within our community. I do free consultations for people who want to start their own business and help them along the way. I am a motivational speaker to those who feel like because they are black they can’t accomplish something. That is NOT true. I am an activist for the equality for black people and other so called minorities. I study and pass on my knowledge to others via speaking engagements or everyday conversations. I am an advocate for the less fortunate/homeless. I homeschool my children to not follow in my footsteps and teach them who they really are and to live up to their true potential. I have apologized to my sons father and we have a better relationship because of it. I have apologized to my son as well admitting my faults and role in his pain. I have been married and have since had many more children. Of course I am faithful to him mind and body. I have left organized religion and embraced my focus on having a better relationship spiritually with the God of my own understanding. I have kept two children out of the system and raise them as my own. I deliberately search out elders in the community and seek their wisdom. I openly welcome all blessings flowing to an through me as I know I am truly worth it.

That wasn’t too hard. And it actually feels refreshing to get it all off my chest in addition, it’s also good to see how far I have come. I implore my Reflections to do the same as a starting point to rebuilding our community and contribute to our growth as a whole.

Namaste Reflections.

-Rush

up from here? 

Something is missing. All of the things that I have to keep me busy in life; businesses, homeschooling, mom, wife, philanthropy, yet I am so completely bored. I have no idea what type of thrill I seek but overdoing life is not it. Maybe I just need a vacation. Maybe I just need a job. I was never bored when I had a job, miserable yes but not bored..that’s probably not something I want to add then huh? Vacations are no good for me because while the family is vacationing I am simply continuing on with my everyday chores of cooking, cleaning, packing, scheduling, etc. Taking a vacation without the RushBunch littles is out of the question, no one wants to watch 9 children PROPERLY no matter how much you pay them. 

What’s a girl to do? I no longer smoke or drink. No cussing and partying, just Momming. I found some solice in exercising and weight training but this pregnancy has me so blah. I need some excitement! Where are all the people who have as many children as me or even more? I need relatable friends, preferably married. What do you do to spark your day to day life? 

This is not an blog to make you feel sorry for me because despite my lack of excitement I am very happy. Its just that even with all these people around me, I still get bored I guess. They say you can never please a woman, I am starting to think that’s true because McRush laughs and cries with me in addition to giving me the world and letting me expand my horizons everytime I have a new great idea. Maybe I should go skydiving (that made me nauseous thinking about it). Maybe I am too comfortable with being uncomfortable in the sense of trying new things. I am definitely open to any advice from my fellow mommy entrepreneurs. 

Rush

I’m just too dang black

Greeting Reflections. I messed up, kinda. So, remember awhile back when I posted that I was offered a blogging gig with a magazine? Well upon our speaking prior to being offered the job, she was very open about being able to blog on a universal level, and by universal I mean everyone could relate to and I agreed. Now let me first say that I honestly thought I could do it, I really did and it was on money so I was like, yeah, everybody likes money, I can do that for sure. But more specifically stocks, no problem right? Uh huh, problem. See, I research and dig until I am filled with so much new knowledge that I think I am going to burst if I don’t get it out and that is when I know its time to write. Well ol’ McGenius me came across all types of statistics about black people and their presence, or lack thereof, in the stock market. Before I knew it I was reaching out to prosperous black investors and getting their input on this big new project that was once a simple little blog. Now, I have this amazing article and no where to put it. What am I going to do with me ya’ll. I mean, first off, I pick up a new hustle like I have all the time in the world and am well rested (as I type #9 is staring at me to pick him up at 12:33 a.m.). In addition, I know I should have known better than to think that I can create something universal with all the love I have for my Reflections and my desire to push for more growth within our communities.

Please do not misinterpret what I am saying. I love everyone who loves me back I just feel like my Reflections need more love, encouragement, and support and I am all for it. Now if you are not a person of color and you can take something from what I write, then I implore you to go be great as well with it.

The biggest issue I am having is, with me being an entrepreneur at heart, I instantly went into creativity mode when I realized I could not blog like I thought I could, ‘universally’. With that being said, we need a magazine called Black Money or Black Dollars, something that can shine a direct light on the financial opportunities to and for people of color. Blogging and articles about money, from banking to investing to sharing and checking. You can also have interviews with people in the financial industry, there will be advertising spots as well as small business spotlights. The same as any other magazine. Now I will be the first to pat myself on the back but I truly believe that this is a good idea, I would even be an investor to this magazine. *Hunches Shoulders* hopefully someone will read this and get the ball rolling because I know a few people who own magazine companies and I know it is no easy task so I  can say with surety that this is not something I am looking to start up, but I will help you if you do decide, let me know.

Rush

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Hello there

I have been one busy Mama! I know some of you think, “you don’t say”. But really, this time its true. This may seem like boasting but I assure you, it leads to a point that shows my pure laziness.

As you all know, I homeschool our 9 children as well as run three businesses and just incorporated a healthy vegan lifestyle (which in itself is a full time job), in addition to picking up a new reading fetish (I literally get an average of 1 or two books in the mail daily). I can imagine you look at me like superwoman but do not let social media fool you honey, I am beat!

As you all know I am a city girl at heart so everyday hustle and bustle is like home to me but let me assure you, I give minimal effort. I am not lying to you. I haven’t made a sock in months, my last Heels and Hustle event was like October I think and Rush Consulting Firm is thriving of residuals. Homeschooling is sucking the life right out of me. In addition, the vegan life demands you cook every single meal including snack. You are constantly checking labels on everything which leads me to my new home made ventures of making my own toothpaste (no fluoride) and deodorant (to many things that were not beneficial to my skin. Aaaaaaand I exercise a lot more so when I lose weight I won’t have loose skin, no I have had no surgeries I just want to be cute.

Welp, I have decided to jump back in 100% on everything. Now before I do that I figured I would spend this weekend doing absolutely nothing. Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha said the universe, YOU, do NOTHING. Apparently God thinks I am a comedian because my children would not let me be great in my lazy endeavors. I tell you what, my babies have stressed me out more this weekend than any weekend ever. There was more crying and whining and fighting and tattling, as well as more calling me by my nickname MommyCanI. Ugh! Calgon PLEASE. It also didn’t help that McRush worked 12 hour days this weekend so he was not here to help as he oftentimes does.

But, I suppose I could chalk it all up to pregnancy. YUP! The RushBunch is expecting baby number 10 in November, which I am hoping is triplets and they come in October.

Triplets you ask. Well with triplets we will have our dynamic dozen without me carrying two more times and October babies because we already have two November babies.

So, there you have it a quick life check in.

Rush

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Tried

I definitely have my days where I am pushed to what seems like my wits end, whether its by a child of mine or a client of mine. Days like today where it is almost 1:30 in the morning and I am just wrapping up homeschooling. I am a stickler for completion and half trying is not going to get it.

One of the RushBunch decided that today they were going to be stuck on stupid and pretend not to know what simple review work was. And by simple, I mean #7 could do it. But I played along with initially even denying snack as punishment until the work was completed. But oh no, not my stubborn one. No snack? No problem. The other children played and this one just sat there, defiant even. So, instead of sitting I said to stand with a clipboard and do your work. They just stood there, looking at me look at them. Cool. I clean up, scurry the other to bed after dinner and goofing off, I come back downstairs and nothing. I do my casual nonchalant thing and carry on allowing this one to think they won. See, one thing I learned is never let them see you sweat. I go upstairs leaving them to their work. About an half hour goes by and they get called upstairs to get their work checked. Nothing more was done than what was done at 7pm. So I go over the work again, I am assured they know what to do and they began to walk off.. oh no playa! Not so fast! Now you get to sit right by me and all of my craziness until completion. So, angrily, they scribble until holes are in the paper so I politely say “erase it”.  They erase until the paper rips. I calmly say, “let me see it” and I ball up the entire packet. Smiling they feel victorious until I pull out a bigger packet and there will be no sleep until its done. There were tears and tantrums but alas I pulled myself together and watched meticulously as they angrily finished their work. At 1:15 I checked the work and sent my sleepy baby off to bed with a kiss.

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Homeschooling is not always fun and games because your child feels like, its mommy, she’ll slack up on me. Don’t do it. Love them so much that you cannot imagine them not being as smart as smart can be. And remember, wear one hat at a time. During homeschool, you’re teacher, not mom and your job is to teach. After lessons are over, give them the love the ‘teacher’ wouldn’t give them. 

Namaste.

-Rush

To entrepreneur or not…

I have known my entire life that I never wanted to work for someone besides myself. I also knew I was destined for, well, more. I couldn’t quite put my finger on that ‘more’ but I knew that I would know it when I seen it. At fifteen, I worked at Burger King and McDonald’s and Taco Bell. When I was seventeen I got a night job in the mail room at Corestates bank (which became First Union which became Wachovia which became Wells Fargo). I would get off at 7 am and rush down Center City to my second job, United way, and work from eight until two and then I would rush down to my first class, English, at Peirce College. My whole life has been about the hustle and bustle, which I never really minded being a city girl and all but there was nothing to show for my hard work, dedication, and drive except a very exhausted me.

In 2009 after the passing away of my daughter, Madison, I decided I needed to live! I started my company Rush Consulting Firm from literally nothing and I just kept pushing. Every time I wanted to quit I thought about the times I never quit on my bosses out of a sense of obligation. Every time I felt like I just couldn’t do it, I reminded myself of all the late nights and early mornings I pushed for companies who never even noticed my hard work. And every time I felt like a failure, I remember the courage it took to build what I have built.

I want to say that entrepreneurship is not for everyone, but I know that is not true. Even if you decide not to leave your full time job, I implore you to never give up on your dreams. Just a few minutes a day, a couple hours a week, a few weeks out the year will have you feeling more dedicated and refreshed to do more, be more, even in your everyday life. There is something amazing about giving a little bit of you to yourself that makes it all worthwhile, and if you can inspire someone along the way, even better.

I know what some of you may be thinking; Time. Let me tell you a little something about time. Time is your most valuable asset. Time is something you can choose to be generous with or selfish with. Time is something that is yours to do with as you please. Time is one of those things that you can never get back. So you can spend your life planning it or you can spend your life living it, but its your time to do with as you wish.

As a wife, mother, and serial entrepreneur, I can say that sometimes things will get hectic but for me, I choose not to make a fuss over time as long as I spend it the way I desire to. I have 9 children and I home school them all. That is in addition to running a seasonal toddler boutique where the items are made by hand, by me; I also run a successful Consulting Firm where I do everything from coaching to speaking, resumes to job placement, and, our specialty, helping people start the business they always wanted to. In addition, I host Meet and greets called Heels&Hustle where we bring together women who do, did, and want to start their business for the purpose of networking, collaborating, and mentoring. Trust me when I say that I know all about time management and that is why I believe, no, I KNOW you can do it too.

Entrepreneurship IS for everyone. Whether its full time, part time, seasonal, or weekends only, be sure to give it a go. There are people around you that believe in you and your vision and they are just waiting for the opportunity to support you. You can do it.

-Rush
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I’m not the one to gossip so…..

Hello my loves!
Not quite settled into our new home but I am definitely settled into the joy of having a place to call my own when it’s all said and done. Its been a long road traveled for McRush and I. I remember first talking about buying a home with him; We were in our college math class, one we both hated by the way. That seems like many moons ago. Either way, we made it!

This, however is not what I wanted to blog to you guys about. I wanted to talk to you about gossip. Its such an ugly thing and unfortunately,  sometimes even unintentionally, most of us do it. I know I did. I grew out of it and moved away from it and to keep the temptation away, my circle of trusted friends is very small and one that does not have room for negatively,  ever.

In this home buying journey with the slight tinge of homelessness,  I found myself with alot of free time to do some soul searching, as some would say. But it was more of a search of “who am I and why am I here”. I am happy to say I have found the answers to both of those questions and have found solice and much forgiveness for myself. I have ultimately grown closer to the God of my understanding and can now grow because of it.

I reflected much upon my teenage years. You know, when I was stupid and made a lot of mistakes. Friends that I often think about thst no longer talk to me because our paths are now different but I am grateful to have gone through life with them in it. The person that I am today is strong because of them and the silliness thereof.

I do wonder now looking back,  did they grow? I mean, obviously their physical appearance shows signs of growth but I mean mentally and spiritually. I think back to the times I was often used as the scapegoat and for a long time it hurt because I could never understand why my kindness was also my weakness. But now, I am just grateful.

I just wanted to remind you that words hurt and for people like me, sensitive, it hurts for a long time. Twenty years I have been pondering this and finally I had to learn to accept what I could not change and use it as a tool of knowledge.

I said all this to say, mind your words. You words mean something. In the effort to leave an impacting memory on those you love as well as a legacy, mind them. Use them wisely. May they embrace all those who come in contact with you that you leave a smile upon their heart. Namaste.
-Rush

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(Two of the three of my heartbeats.  #SistersAndBrothers)

Why hello there!

I know. I keep popping up and disappearing but in my defense, I have been feeling very lazy. Yup, that’s all I have. The truth. No real reason not to blog except laziness.

To be honest, nothing much is going on. I am still homeschooling my nine. I am still running my companies from home, although I have been contemplating opening a little shop in town for Slips Socks and Bows. But Moncks Corner is so dead right now, I wonder if it would be worth it, besides, these people out here think they can charge you New York rent for these beat down properties….uh, no!

I have contemplated, however, pushing an initiative to get more of these properties rented or sold to minorities and their small businesses as it seems the minority here is the majority (as anywhere else in America) but that a story for another day.

I am also considering doing a seminar to teach people to start their own businesses for less than a months worth of groceries. I do it for people all the time with Rush Consulting Firm. The thing is, you end up paying me much more because you are paying me for my time. And if you don’t know, time is the most precious thing that you can offer anyone, it is one of the only things you can never get back. I want everyone to follow their dreams and reach their goals, but I can’t make you want it bad enough.

Anyhow, enough lecturing.

I have been transitioning to becoming an alkaline vegan since around mid December. This month, I decided to jump all in and I am dragging my family along with me. Being an alkaline vegan is different from being a vegan which is different from being a vegetarian. We follow the late Dr. Sebi and his common core fundamentals on balancing (more increasing) you pH for self healing and cleansing. I feel great. There are a lot of positives to this lifestyle but the only drawback is COOKING. I cook for every single edible moment of the day, as a mother should but uhmmm, I didn’t factor this in with a family my size. I feel like I live in the kitchen! I homeschool in the kitchen. I read in the kitchen. I research in the kitchen. Pretty soon, I’ll be making love in the kitchen. SHEESH. TMI, I know, but that’s me.

Speaking of making love in the kitchen ( I see that creeps you out). I made the decision to remove my IUD, so I am sure it will only be a matter of time before I am gracing the earth with another Rush. In  my defense birth control never worked for me anyhow, I had the IUD with #9, so I suppose you can just say we have been lucky so far. However, I am using an app to keep track of my Ovulation days because I have got to get my body into some type of shape, even if its a square. I cannot be out of breath running up and down theses stairs all day long. I had better breathing when I was a smoker. So it stands to reason that having children is worse on your health than smoking.

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-Rush