Hey. Let’s talk about why you don’t reach your goals.
You are setting them wrong. Most of the time, you set an outcome as a goal. When you do this, you get flustered when you don’t reach it. You get upset because what you’re doing isn’t getting to the goal. You get lost in not knowing what to do to reach the goal.
The problem is not the goal. The problem is not you. The problem is not the work or loss of motivation. The problem is you are going about it wrong.
If you set a goal to lose weight, then what? You have to figure out what to eat, when to eat, count calories, what exercises to do, when to do them, and how often
And all of this is true. You will need to do all of this anyway. But that’s the thing. When you do all of this with losing weight as the goal, you will get discouraged the moment you miss an exercise, eat the wrong thing, and the scale didn’t go down. And that is the problem. See, the reason you get so easily discouraged is because you did not see the result you wanted by the end of the day; lose weight.
Losing weight was never the goal. Losing weight is the result of the goal.
It’s all in the why. WHY do you want to lose weight. That’s the key. I want to feel better about myself. I want to be able to play with my children without being out of breath. I want to walk up the stairs without my knee hurting. Those are the goals. These are what you call smart goals. Specific measurable attainable realistic timely.
Doing your goals this way will help keep you motivated BECAUSE your discipline is not stressed because of lack of it. Every day that you work out, you will feel better about yourself, goal #1 accomplished. This will create the urge to repeat the process until you see the result: weight loss. This ideology can be applied to anything you want to do, plus it simplifies the steps so it’s less guess work and more action.
I had this epiphany about myself today. I thought I’d share in case it brings you as much clarity as it brought me. 😉
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