Words mean something.

Sitting here having a conversation with McRush about words and the root of them.

I posted a while back on Facebook that I do not teach my children to say I am sorry, I apologize, or any variation thereof. Some people feel like I am cold for having this approach, you know because people are oftentimes so quick to judge. I will admit that for the most part I can seem a little distant and skeptical until you get to know me. This stems mostly from a history of being hurt and betrayed, lied to and led on. I am very forgiving though because, I believe, you either genuinely do not know any better or I just took too long to know the real you. I have learned that I cannot concern myself with your ignorance (for not knowing better) or callousness (for not caring about me the way I did you).

While I am easily a crybaby, usually from holding things in, I am not a very emotional person. I am, however an open book. I hide nothing and that includes my discontent.

The purpose behind me not allowing my children to say I am sorry is actually two fold. First, they are my children and they are far from ‘sorry’. They are smart, outstanding, and humble little people who are finding their purpose in life, there is nothing to be sorry about. Second, by stating you are sorry, you are implying you regret what has happened when in all actuality, you shouldn’t regret anything that happens in your life.

Things happen TO you or FOR you. Either way it is a lesson learned, and without learning a lesson, you will continually repeat the same “mistake” in life until you do.

If #7 is running and swinging his arms and as he runs past #8 hits him, naturally he would look back and say “I’m sorry” but keep going. But at a better glance, he isn’t ‘sorry’ because he kept running. Stating that you regret something happen is stating that you wish in never happened AND will take precautionary measures to assure it does not happen again.

What makes your words mean something are the actions in which follow your statement. For this reason I teach my children the root of the word and SHOWING their concern rather than their regret.

In the aforementioned incident, what #7 should do is stop, turn around and check on #8 as well as seeing if there is anything he can do to make the situation better.

Words mean nothing if your actions do not support it. Learning the root of words will keep you from saying things that you really don’t mean as well as forcing you to take the time to analyze your actions and learn from them.

I do not believe you should regret anything in life. Regret serves no purpose except to weigh you down with guilt and possibly shame. I do not have time for either. This oftentimes can be misconstrued as heartless and unkind but cannot be further from the truth. I, in fact, am very kind and full of giving. Anyone who knows me can vouch for me. I just have no time for foolishness and antics when it comes to living my life. If you have ever seen the show Bones, I am Bones.

-Rush

 

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It’s deeper than that.

Greetings!

Thank you for checking in. I would like to focus on something I normally do not speak upon; Money.

It is often assumed that we reap the many ‘benefits’ of public assistance because our family is so big, but lets be quite honest, its more so because we are black than any other reason. That’s a conversation for another day though.

You would be surprised at just how many times my family has been denied medicaid, food stamps, cash assistance, or even financial help from programs like LIHEAP; liquid assets I suppose because our pockets were definitely a liability when we found ourselves in a position to seek out such help. What I did learn though, is we are better off without it? Why? Accountability. I may make a few enemies with this but it is one of  my most favorite sayings. It is from Mr. Bill Cosby when once speaking for the Rainbow Coalition a few years back. He stated that we rely too much on the welfare system and by welfare he was speaking in its entirety including public housing. He said “The system is not set to sustain you but for you to move in, move up, and move out.” [I paraphrase.] We all have moments in life where we need help but taking advantage of this ‘help’ is not only irresponsible, it’s  selfish. What about the people who really need it, even more than you but you are celebrating the fact that you pay $7 in rent while raking in hundreds of dollars in food stamps and cash assistance while simultaneously keeping yourself and children geared up in the latest fashions? You could, no you should be saving that money to buy a home, cash even, with all the money you save. Start a business. Something besides attaching value to such materialistic things that completely depletes in value the moment you purchase it.

This is not a post to belittle or offend anyone because I and my family were down and out a few times before arriving where we are, both mentally and financially. It is a post to make you consider your intentions.

My business Rush Consulting Firm, is set to show you how to build a business on a solid foundation without breaking the bank and maintain your business by maximizing your dollar. I have a Business mindset series that will start January 10, 2018 last through June 2018 and its FREE. It will be streamed via Periscope. While the information I will be giving out is awesome for starting and growing your business mindset, I think That I will add some streams that speak on financial literacy. Now I am no financial adviser so I will not be going into depth due to liability, but I can definitely share some tips I have learned that helped me along the way.

There is a growing concern over our debt in America and if you live here, you should be concerned about it too. Our biggest reasons for financial deficit? Yup, public assistance i.e. Medicaid and Medicare, two of the biggest things we rely on. But we can start our businesses and help the economic structure or wait, getting everything we can until its dried out, and later suffer the consequences.

I also get from people, that I have secured my retirement plan with my children, my first thought is how grossly ignorant such a comment is. The truth is, I am securing theirs and McRush and I’s by teaching them financial literacy in addition to becoming an entrepreneur and business owner. This is also one of the reasons I chose to home school our children, these very basic fundamentals of life are not taught in school. This along with self respect, humanity, and confidence are the things that will pull the economy together but, in my humble opinion, that is not the goal of the government but I will stop there before I find myself in trouble.

I do hope you will join me in the Business Mindset Series via Periscope starting in January so you can take a hold of your financial stability starting with the mind set. If you do not have Periscope, get one, of course its FREE! Then go to http://www.Periscope.tv/MaishaRush and come ready with a notebook to jot down all the awesome Rush nuggets I will be giving out!

-Rush

Lighten up but tighten up.

Today I wore a shirt that I really liked. Its an all white tee shirt with the words, thinly but neatly inscribed, ‘Think Positive’. I don’t wear it that often because of my pregnant belly but today I was feeling my vibes so I figured, why not.ย  I didn’t spend much money on this shirt but I did spend more than usual because I was supporting a small black business. I went about my day remembering the words ‘Think positive’ I was so anxious to display because it was reflective upon how I felt this morning.

As a mom and business owner, I oftentimes do not consider my attire and today was no different. I have on the tee shirt, a pair of leggings (NOT see through), a cami tee and socks; nothing fancy. By the end of the day, my shirt is filled with blood on my shoulder, red sauce on my sleeve. a dirt hand print an my belly and chalk on my butt. I snickered to myself in thoughts of an younger me who would have had all kinds of fits because my clothes are ruined. But as I look at this shirt, one of my favorites, all I see is love.

The blood onย  my shoulder is when #8 hurt himself and I swooped him up and rocked him to a calm state. The red sauce is when #9 and I sat outside in the rocking chair sharing some noodles. The dirt hand print is when #7 patted me with excitement as a tractor rolled through our neighborhood. The chalk on my butt is when I sat outside with the RushBunch and drew on the ground. Lets not forget about the stretched belly from #10.

People ask how I do it and I can never give a definitive answer because really, I don’t know myself. All I know is I take life one day at a time and though my days get hectic and I may even cry (from stepping on a lego) my family is an accomplishment I am proud to share with the world.

I take pride in them and my businesses. I run them the same. with ease and love. But never take it too easy because just like children, it will run you ragged if you let it.

I have Mondays off and for the first time in a long time, I took today off from business and focused on myself and self care. I did things that made me smile. Luckily for me that was hanging out with the bunch.

There was a question posed on FB today, what would you get if you could go to any spa. I chuckled at this question because I have never been to a Spa. My reply was, I would settle for an hour of quiet time in the lobby.

Sometimes its the simple things…. Really, its always the simple things.

-Rush

what stinks

Happy Birthday Madison.

running around

The one thing that drives me crazy is the children running around the house when they should being doing school or housework. I am constantly repeating myself about do what meeds to be done then you can have youe fun. 

Such a hypocrite. 

The one thing I am learning about myself is I do the same thing, except its more internal and mental. When I am supposed to be doing one thing my mind is wandered off already, as if disinterested,  onto my next task. And what happens when you lose interest in something? You abandon it. What you find out about being a parent is you soon realize its all relevant. Whatever drives you crazy the most about your children is usually the same exact thing that you need to look inward of yourself. Fix it. 

Life is funny that way. But see, I have a double dose and not because I have 10 children but because I have clients whom I treat like my children. I love them almost instantaneously and I care about their personal, as well as business, well being. Some of them don’t listen and I find myself once again repeating but here’s the kicker, I’M NOT LISTENING TO ME.  So even when they do follow my instructions, I don’t. Then I get those salty phone calls telling me how wonderful my advice was and that they followed it to the letter and received awesome results.  After the call I sit there shaking my head at the very stubborness that drives me crazy about my children. Too busy being distracted and lost what you could have attracted. 

Structure.

This is also a word I have probably hated my whole life but what I do know is it actually works. It takes a lot of time and effort to put it together but once you find your groove everything will flow. If we are on a schedule my life is easy peasy. If not, I oftentimes want to lay in bed tucked under my covers eating buttered toast <— my comfort food, don’t judge me. 

So the next time you are about to yell or fuss at your children, look within first. You will be surprised how much this helps YOU grow. 

-Rush