For a long time I wouldn’t invest in my business and did everything myself. I signed up for free newsletters and ebooks, webinars and classes just to sit and separate what I could use now, or later. What was a good idea, what was meant for me, and what could make me money NOW. The truth is, I lost so much more than money trying to “save” money. I was nickel and diming my dreams and couldn’t even get a handle on a clear vision because all of the free stuff I consumed had me off track. I had to take a step back and realign myself with what I wanted and where I wanted to be THEN I could create a plan of action of how to get there. But, I still needed help. I still needed those “freebies”. Wrong. I needed to invest in systems and information that was specifically catered to my goals. That’s what consulting is. Helping you get your business on track and scale. Throughout this confusing process of trying to consume any and everything I could get my hands on to build my brand. I lost my vision in the process. I couldn’t hear my own voice and I began to compare my progress, or lack thereof, to the people I was taking “free” advice from. I had to step back and gather my thoughts. I hired my own coach to keep me on track and motivated. That’s what coaching is. Many people know that I made zero dollars on my business until about 3 years after I started. Even then, the next two years I made less than $10,000 per year. It wasn’t until I invested in the systems and people I knew would take me where I was trying to go. Now making over 10x what I was I learned that there is no secret to success. Just the right work and it doesn’t have to be hard.
See I teach you what I know and what I have been through. I not only have the expertise and education but I have the experience. I teach because I have been there. I show up to be the person I needed when I was where you are.
I am a wife and homeschooling mom of 12 who has been through it all and yet, here I am. Making more than 10x what I was and enjoying every moment of it. If you’re following me on social media you’d probably think I didn’t do anything except snap pictures of my family. I mean, I do, but I also run a very successful brand. I say all that to say, invest in the help you know you need. It will pay off. Trust me.
This is a post that I shared years ago. It was at this moment I made the shift to be who I am while working on the goals I aimed to accomplish. I hope it sets a spark in you like it did for me.
Stop breaking everything.
Today, I set out to reconfigure something i created that was perfectly fine. It was already set up and the process was working very well. But I took this thing and mentally tore it apart to see if I could make it “better” (that’s what I told myself). And then it hit me. I self sabotage. I can take a well oiled machine and swear it needs water. But why? As I thought over some moments passed, I realized I have done this almost all my life. Its a horrible thing to do to myself. In fact, I have never ever sabotaged anyone else I know…. just myself. It was in this mornings moment I realized, for whatever reason, I am sometimes afraid to be great. What if people think I am stuck up? What if people see me as if I think am better than them. Smh. What an epiphany. #OutTheBox
Affirmation There is nothing wrong with being great.
I have bad news for you guys. You know that I’m an advocate for fuck these kids and live your best life because I believe that you deserve all the things you want the way you want them now but baby girl. That shit is not going to just fall in your lap. You’re going to have to work for it and imma tell you now, motherhood is a beast and it can and will be overwhelming buy just like you planned your babies birthday party, your beat friends bridal shower, and your wedding; you’re going have to have that same can-do energy when it comes to building a life of ease and comfort. I never promised it would be easy no matter how easy you think I make it look. Imma be upfront, as always, this shit is hard and some days you’re gonna want a vicodin or a blunt because the way the constant consistency of showing up gets twitchy… biiiiitch. This ain’t for the faint of heart. Some days you are going to feel like you are everything to everybody and others you’re gonna be like Lord what was I thinking. But the in between is much more present. I’m telling you this because I want you to know that you are not alone and whether you have 1 child or 15 it’s not always easy. This is why I teach moms that they have a right to be selfish in their career, in their business, and even in their lives because raising children does not stop at 18 and the worry never goes away. I want to remind you of how strong and capable you are because you still show up. Just remember it’s okay to take a rest. Them kids ate yesterday. They’ll be alright. 藍 🤣