Bitch you doing a good job.

Hey y’all HEY!

What a week. I had the whole week planned out and that shit did NOT go accordingly. Yes business was AH-mazing and we even took an impromptu trip to the mountains. But BAYBEEEE! WHEW!

Fasten your seatbelt, you are about to hear the side of business ownership that most people will not tell you. Yea, you absolutely can be successful in your business, make a lot of money, look cute, have a happy family and STILL be losing your fucking mind.

This is why I am so transparent with my journey as a wife, mother, and successful business owner. People will have you think that once you have it all together life becomes effortless. That. Shit. Is. A. LIE! BRUH! I plan everything, not even in an obsessive way but very strategically. Meals, vacations, cleaning, school, work, you name it. I know it sounds like A lot to some people but as a mother of 10, wait, a PREGNANT mom of 10 trust me when I tell you, it is necessary. So, I understand that everyone does not function the same so I do allow myself to veer from the schedules to give a little spontaneity. HOWEVER, despite the fact that there was nothing planned for the week the trip to the mountains stressed me all the way out!

First I couldn’t find an air bnb that was close enough to stay so we booked two rooms at a hotel. Let me just say that hotels are so overpriced in comparison to air bnb. ๐Ÿ™„ย  Like most families, instead of packing, I just went shopping for everyone. No? Just me. ๐Ÿ˜. So one of the days was dedicated to shopping for 10 children ๐Ÿ˜ญ. LOADS of money but okay, not a surprise. Then, I forgot to pack road food because 1. McRush has to be eating on the road because imma go to sleep as soon as the engine starts running ๐Ÿ˜‚. So the food keeps him occupied. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพย  2. The children like snacks. Like, ALOT! This means more money spent. ๐Ÿ˜‘ย  So okay, no biggie, we got it, right? The plan was to shop at a grocery store and cook while on our trip. So we get there and I’m like FUUUUUUCK DAT! I’m not cooking. I’m on vacation too. So we’re eating out. Yup, you guessed it. More money. ๐Ÿค‘ The rooms had two FULL sized beds. Who thee fuck shares a full sized bed? It was official. I was stressed. THIS is why I don’t do spontaneous. But okay. We get to the mountains pit stop and go to the restrooms. Leave and as soon as we get to our location, “mom, I have to pee” BRUH! Over all, the experience was fun and new. It was great for memories but baybee! Imma have to clone myself before I do that again because, I’M NOT!

So boom, we get back, still nothing on my schedule so imma chill out. Right? Wrong! I needed a nap, you know pregnancy kicking my ass. Nah, the RushBunch act like Daddy is golden and cannot be disturbed. Every five seconds somebody is calling my name, diaper change, tattling, whining. So I finally call dad like dude. Get your children! I finally get a moment of peace and 3 minutes in, a client calls with an emergency. Now I’m up until 1 am handling some last minute work. Where errybody at? Sleep.

I was livid. I wanted to cry. Okay, I did. I tried to be spontaneous and surprise the ingrates but no it was still mommy can I all the way there, through the trip, back, and at home. (I cried because it took me a lot to step out of my comfort zone of schedule a and when I did, I was miserable as fuck.)

The bottom line is, regardless of how much you plan, anticipate, or organize, life can get stressful. That is why I take solo vacations, pamper myself, and make sure I pour into me on a regular basis. Because sometimes in life, as a mom, you legit have to say #FDK and take the time to make YOU smile. Because baby, you deserve it! ๐Ÿฅ‚

Hey y’all hey!

There is a lot going on so I’ll start with the RushBunch. Trash. 2 out of 5 stars. Do not recommend. So you know that these children woke up today and chose VIOLENCE?! They decided to get up and dress themselves. They look like backwoods church in the park on Friday night. Lmao. Just kidding. While they did look rough around the edges, they were excited about their decision so I took a picture and gave them their accolades. I even let them.keep it on but definitely didn’t leave the house. ๐Ÿ˜‚

I used to be one of those parents who would look at other parents like they were crazy because their child had on a tutu and mismatched shoes. Now I see their struggle. We just be like fuck it. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

Also, this pregnancy is going by too slowly and the constant sleepiness is kicking my ass..

Homeschooling is different this year. We are reviewing until December and after “Christmas break” we jump into more grade appropriate education. They still so the Montessori effect and we have strict school schedules.

Business is going pretty good. I miss my old team though. I had to let them go earlier in the year because I just wasn’t able to pay them salary instead of 1099 and this affected their performance. Not because they were incompetent or lazy but because they had to find other ways to generate income. That was not fair to them or the firm. ๐Ÿ˜– It was a hard decision too.

Recently I was featured on Fox news you can see the clip here โ†’https://foxcharleston.com/news-now/mother-of-10-and-consulting-firm-ceo-shares-work-life-balance-secrets/ Tapped to be a part of Entrepreneur and Buzzfeed’s upcoming Women in Power series. I found out tonight that I will be featured in VoyageATL magazine and a whole host of happenings. I am super excited to show up for myself and future clients.

McRush is still buying me purses so that’s pretty dope. He also recently quit his job to help more in the business so WE ALL IN BAYBEEEEEEEEEEE!

May the level up continue. I hope you come with.

What have I done.

Sara’s birthday was this weekend and I allowed her and her sister to invite 3 friends each to stay the weekend. Yes, the whole weekend. It turned out to be seven but I couldn’t say no.

I am so glad I gave my girls this experience. I spent almost $400 on party prep like food and decor. They were supposed to go skating but at the last minute they decided they wanted to get in the pool. We don’t have a pool so McRush and I spent hours trying to locate one. Do you know that a lady in walmart,when I asked where the pools were, told me “Its back to school season there are no pools”. Then she let out a “Tuh” type of laugh and walked off. These people really feeling invincible with this job shortage. Hmph.

We didn’t find a big pool but they did get a small pool and played in the sprinkler/hose. They ate so much food, made so much mess, and one was pretty Damn hardheaded. But my babies enjoyed themselves.

Oh! Did I mention when we went to Wal-Mart the overnighters were like “can we all get something”. Now remember there are 11 girls total. They didn’t pick up toys on clearance. Oh no baby. They were picking up double and triple digit items. I’m like, your mama told you I was rich huh. ๐Ÿ˜‚ Well imma stay rich cause y’all putting that Shit BACK.

They were so mad at me honey. But I already spent WAY more than I wanted and exerted far more energy and effort than I thought so yeah, no.

Last night I tried to hang with them but at about 3:20 a.m. I was OUT! I think they went to bed around 5. I was sure to wake they asses up at 830 this morning though. Fool me once, shame on me. It won’t be a twice. So now its 1230 and they are knocked out.

So yeah. I’m so happy I did this cause now I know, NEVER AGAIN! ๐Ÿคฃ

Oops I did it again.

So I was trying to keep up this blog daily. Smh. I just dnt thin much happens in our lives to keep boring you guys with everyday nothings. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพ

I overslept. Didn’t do a bit of work at hustled around to get the girls ready to go to Sara’s gymnastics practice. Its two hours that I always say I’m going to take my tablet and notebook and get some work done but alas, there’s Ava and Maia. So really I just bring it to look at it look at me.

Good news is when I got home my Amazon packages were here. ๐Ÿ™„ I think I have a bad habit of online ordering but I don’t spend nearly as much as I could…. right? Lol.

I have absolutely no desire to stop… is that bad? Nah ๐Ÿ‘€ See I have been making sure to cater to myself so I make sure to put a stipend to the side to be sure I can get the things that I want because I deserve it. Psst. Sometimes I go over…. okay I USUALLY go over ๐Ÿค.

Eh. Like I said. I don’t have much to say…… YET. ๐Ÿ˜˜

Try to keep up.

Sooooooo.

Happy Juneteenth eve? What does that even mean? We ask for justice, equality, Transparency, stop killing us, and we get a holiday foooooooorrrr? ๐Ÿ‘€ So its a federal holiday for everyone to celebrate and get a day off โ† read “make less money, dive deeper into debt, and still we have voter suppression and no equity. Bruh. Seriously?

Eh. I didn’t get on here to vent but that’s the first thing that came to mind so I went with it. Y’all know me. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพ

Anyhow. I think its time to hire some staff. I am so nervous because I didn’t get it quite right the last time I hired. I don’t want to waste their time or mine. I’m going to try to hold off until November. I have to talk to my advisor and see what that looks like. I have an assistant that I still need to fully train and a sales rep but I need consultants so I can just do my coaching more.

Today was supposed to be cleaning day so we didn’t have to do it this weekend and just enjoy celebrating fathers day but I woke up today and was not feeling it at all. I need my sister to come over and supervise because my children are afraid of her Mommy tone but not mine. ๐Ÿ˜‘ Not cool. And its my baby sister at that. She stands about a good 5 feet tall. Lol. But she is a fierce firecracker. Maybe we can get up early and knock it out but who am I kidding. Bella has Ballet at noon and its an hour away. I can’t really see myself waking up earlier than that task. Especially since it’s already 3a.m…

Let me take my ass to bed.

Love you. Mean it. ๐Ÿ–ค

One more day.

I thought today was Friday all day. I turned my alarms off for the next day, set my calendar blocks, and moseyed around the house in a blouse and daisy dukes like I didn’t have anything to do. It wasn’t until my meeting VIA ZOOM ๐Ÿ˜ฎ that it indeed was not Friday. ๐Ÿ˜‚

The reminder alarm went off on my watch 10 minutes prior. You should have saw me scurrying. I got it done and was cute too. ๐Ÿ˜œ

After that I REALLY didn’t want to do anything else. I managed to do a steak stir fry for the family and retired to my room.

I did a little Amazon shopping and paid a few bills and that was the full extent of my day.

Sometimes its like that. How did you spend your faux Friday (better known as Thursday).

Whatchu doin’

I’m laying in the bed considering jumping on my computer to get a jump start on tomorrow, except it technically IS tomorrow which means imma be hella tired and ill prepared. I can’t sleep though. I drank too much water and now my stomach hurts. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ Don’t laugh at me laugh with me.

Outside of a few meetings, today was a no work day. It shouldn’t have been but I have been hammering down on the RushBunch because they are considering going to public school for 2021-2022 year. I’m not sure how I feel about that but I am not going to hinder or try to persuade their decision. On one hand it sucks because all of that anxiety I get from them going to public school will rush back but on the other hand a more diverse environment will do them good. Imma just keep a paper bag on me to breathe in because I ain’t no punk! ๐Ÿคฃ I lie. When it comes to my children I get so emotional but don’t tell them that. Remember that time like two years ago I told y’all I let them see me cry. Man, I didn’t live that shit down for MONTHS! Every picture they drew I was a big ass cry baby. These children have no chill. Now that I think about it, they might still be low key clowning me because everyday they come to me like 100 times “mommy are you alright”. Bruh I’m brushing my teeth. ๐Ÿค” They are brutal.

Anyway. I went to my first mixer of 2021 that consisted of more than 5 people. It feels so good being off punishment from 2020. I met some amazing people. Swapped stories and numbers. I think I’m going to stop telling people how many children I have until our 3rd interaction. It’s a mood killer sometimes because some people are still in the mindset of “oh my god, why would you have that many children”. They don’t say it but its all over their face. Its annoying to be honest. Like, am I asking for your help? I make good money and have a husband. We are SO good.

Usually I’m a rock when it comes to how people feel about me but I already told you that I’m a sucka for my babies. God has not touched that part of me yet so I be ready to fight QUICK. Lbvs.

Y’all pray my skremf.

Don’t think that

It dawned on me that I don’t dish out the juicy details of my family life. You know, the little things that make you scream.

To be honest I don’t have many but what pinches my nerve is McRush wants to go to bed and acts like he’s a Damn vampire. I can be in the middle of researching (everyone knows I do my best work at night when the house is down) and he’ll be like, “are you using that light”. ๐Ÿ˜‘ Bruh!

I know you’re probably like, well the man is trying to go to sleep. Mmhmm. Except he doesn’t want me to go in another room to work. ๐Ÿ™„

I have been teasing him that the next house we buy we are getting seperate bedrooms. ๐Ÿ˜‚

I’m a night owl and He is a daytime junkie. He will squeeze so many chores in one day and wonder why he is so beat come sundown. He hates light, unless its his flashlight. ๐Ÿค” I try to dim the light, use a lower light, but no. He needs pitch black to sleep.

The funky thing is, this is an every night debacle. Like every night. Tonight I was working on something and the children were watching a movie in our room. He comes in and goes to the closet to lay down. Seriously ๐Ÿ˜ค. Why not just send the bunch to bed. Dramatic. I love him though and all of his pouty ways. ๐Ÿคฃ

Last night he was using his massager and I was working on a contract. He was like “this feels almost as good as if someone -looks at me- was doing it with their hands. Uhm sir, you better enjoy that massager because of all the titles I carry masseuse ain’t it. He be lucky to get 5 minutes outta me before my hands cramp up. THATS why he has 4 massagers now. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

That’s about the brunt of our squabbles. I am so grateful for that. 12 years later and he still treats me like gold. I guess I might give him a massage…

Nah.

Can you keep a secret?

Despite the fact that I share my life with you guys on here, I’m a pretty private person. I know, I share a lot but there’s a lot I don’t share. Nothing bad, you guys know all of that. Stripping, promiscuity days, jail time, dropped outta high school, trash relationships, jail again ๐Ÿ˜‚. I may be something like a rebel. ๐Ÿ‘€

I even share my wins with you guys; pregnancies, new job, quit job, started my business, created a multi million dollar company, $10000 weeks, that time I hit the lottery… okay that one I’m still manifesting. ๐Ÿคฃ

I have boundaries though. I never share my friends secrets with you or my clients struggles. I believe integrity is one of the things that makes me stand out. Even when my clients soar beyond financial goals they never even dreamed about, that’s their business and I would never use that to catapult me. I’m the shit because I know my stuff. They are successful because they did the work.

My life and my business are intertwined and for that reason my values spill over into the core values of my business which are Honesty, Integrity, Transparency, and Self Accountability. This works for my brand.. You know when it doesn’t work? When I apply it to my parenting skills. Whew Chile. These children are TRASH sometimes. (I said what I said).

Why do they treat me like this. I say something 4 times. But if I say it a fifth time they be like “mommy why are you repeating yourself. We heard you the first time” meanwhile no one moved or even acknowledge the fact that I said anything. Who chirren dese? Ugh!

Happy Friday!

I got treated.

Its been a hell of a week y’all. I can’t even tell you everything just yet but do know I am feening for Friday.

It was a crazy financial week between one payment processor holding almost $1100 hostage, wix holding $3000 hostage, to working on building my Kajabi account. This week in business was trash.

I found out that the school Bella was to go to isn’t as competitive as she would like it so I spent all week calling and questioning ballet schools to find a good fit. I finally found one that is almost an hour away ๐Ÿ™„….. she starts Saturday.

Maia is teething and Cameron is going through a bully stage. Ava is hitting and biting and I’m just trying to figure out where the hell my calgon is. ๐Ÿ˜‚

So, because this week has been trying my nerves I gifted myself 2 rose gold givenchy bracelets with matching necklace, diamond stud earrings, and a new black dress for an event I have next week. ๐Ÿ˜Ž

Then I remembered that fathers day was coming up so I grabbed some things for McRush. I would tell you guys what they are but he reads my blogs. I will say that I am more excited about his gifts that I was about his truck, rc, fish tank, tools, drill, and fish he got for his birthday. So much so that I begged him to celebrate this weekend (which I thought was fathers day) instead of next weekend. He said no. ๐Ÿ˜‘ I hate surprises because I’m nosey as f*ck but he loves them. Oddly enough that still drives me crazy. I don’t know why I’m like this but I cannot wait to see the smile on his face.

What are you doing for your dads on father’s day?