How I juggle my family and businesses

Peace and love beloveds.

Things are starting to pick up quite quickly and trust me, I have no complaints. Some mornings I wake up not knowing exactly what to start on but magical me always manages to get it completed thus going to bed, however early morning it is, feeling satisfied with my accomplishments. I am hoping to be able to hire 1 person per business venture soon, that is, afterall, the goal of being an entrepreneur; graduating to a small business with  employees. I strive to start businesses because I feel everyone has an idea worth capitalizing on, whether it is full time or passive, but I am also aware that not everyone has the desire to be a small business owner and I await the opportunity to offer the flexibility that comes with working for a small business like mine, or yours.

The Heels&Hustle Meet and Greet is in a couple days and I could not be more excited. I am hoping to make awesome connections with some beautifully minded entrepreneurs. I am eager to talk marketing and promoting as well as ideas with people who desire more out of life.


I saw someone post on Facebook that they were going to sell their children in the marketplace. I  must say that I am strongly considering it, I’d probably post them on Amazon because I don’t want to negotiate. Its $1 FIRM, plus but one get 8 free. This of course is a joke and I have no desire to part from my babies!. I love them so much no matter how much they drive me looney. By the end of any given day we are usually a bunch of over exerted coo coos with the giggles. #RushBunch

You know, I really cannot tell you HOW, exactly, I juggle my family and the iRush Brand because a schedule is NOT it. I have no idea what orders are coming in until they come in. I can plan to work on something but more than likely it will get bumped by something or someone else. The truth is, I’d probably get bored if I maintained a set schedule for work. The children are basically on a set schedule although they veer from time to time. But I have always been something like a nomad, my father calls me a gypsy. I am not the typical person who needs the stable life to feel accomplished, let me be free and then I will feel accomplished. Since my husband is almost the complete opposite and felt it is his duty, rightfully so, to offer this very thing I hate for me and the children, we bought a home. Bah Humbug! I pouted the entire time. I must say that it does feel good not to be renting buuuut, I’m still resistant.

Now, back to the subject matter, How I juggle the RushBunch and my businesses; Consistency. No matter how much I have to do, I found that I may not get everything done but I never stop chipping away, even on the weekends when I proclaim to be off. It is actually when I get the most brainstorming and work done. I still answer emails and messages. I still do things that do not require direct contact with people unless its setting up conferences or meetings for the upcoming week. In addition, though I do not get much sleep, I do get plenty of time with my babies. There is a bowling alley that has absolutely no service, I found it frustrating initially but I heard the signs loud and clear, it is for family time and so this is the perfect place to go because it forces me NOT to work.

Well enough of my ramblings for the night.

Be easy Kings and Queens.


What a frustrating productive day.

Its just been one of those days where I was either fussing or in my zone, there was no in between.

It seems as if the RushBunch know just when I am on a time crunch and seriously trying to meet deadlines. Unfortunately for them, their deterrent serum did not work on me today. I was able to fuss and do a complete 180 and get many things accomplished.

Its Friday so that meant McRush was home but no where to be found. Well, I knew where he was but he was in do not disturb mode aka sleeping. I hate Fridays with a passion. McRush works weekends, ALL  weekend so he sleeps in the day and heads to work Friday evening. I have to give it to him, he hangs with me as long as he can before nodding off or I have to send him to bed before he suffers fatigue, but when he goes to sleep, These littles know just what to do to drive me crazy. I oftentimes feel like a single parent on the weekend but I get through it.

Regardless of their many interruptions, I was able to complete my Speaker Sheet (which is long overdue), create a new terms of agreement contract and confidentiality agreement for my clients, completed client’s certification, two invoices, a website, and two consults. That is in addition to cooking breakfast, lunch, and dinner and taking an hour to teach the ingrates…. I mean RushBunch.

I will never be one to tell you that being anything is easy especially a mom, wife, and entrepreneur but at the end of the day it will always be worth it.

We have to remember that in our fight to be great mothers and great wives we must also take the initiative to be a great US. For me that is spending time to focus on my business because I love to help people, it makes me feel good to know I helped someone reached a goal. Whatever makes you feel good, do that and do it often. And if anyone questions you about it, tell them to come and talk to me so I can tell them to be a great support so you can do what you want!


To beat their butts or not…..

I’m not here for a debate so I will just jump right into it.

As a mother to 9, soon to be 10, children, I assure you that this is the most asked questioned we get. It is usually dressed up nicely by those who try to be politically correct or just plain nosey. “How do you get them to behave?’ or “What do you use?”

The answer in my head is, none of your dang business, but I play nice and smile and say “Love.”

Believe it or not children do respond well to it. Now, please do not be misinformed, they CAN get it but it doesn’t resort to that.

I have my days when I want to pull my hair out or simply state to my husband, ..”and we have NINE”. I get headaches and I fuss. Most times I put myself in time out which is usually the attempt to hide in my closet from the littles who have not yet learned my moods and patience level.

Every time, and I do mean every time, we are out in public we are approached with statements like, “I can’t even get my two children to behave, I cannot imagine having nine”. The truth is, if you cannot get your two children to behave then you probably should have stopped at one. I know, that was harsh but you are the parent.

As for me I am the most impatient person I know and I do not accept anything less than your best and that goes for my children as well. If they are wrong, I tell them they are wrong. If they are not doing their best, I tell them that too. If they are acting like a jerk, I let them know that as well. I am really bad at sugar coating things and that goes for my children as well. I pretty much treat my children like I treat my clients. I am not here to feed you fairytales about how wonderful you are and how great the world is. I am here to tell you the truth and prepare you for an even harsher truth called life.

So I suppose by now you are like, answer the question already! So, No. No I do not beat my children into submission otherwise my life would be much simpler. My children are very well behaved in public but let me tell you something, they are absolutely barbaric at home! I mean really, flipping through the house, jumping down the stairs, running around like loose weirdos, but in public, not a peep.

There really is no secret to it at all. Do I believe children should get their butt beat? Yup. I have seen some children that I just want to beat on site, old school with an extention cord but they are not mine so I digress and mind my business like I would like people to do about mine.

Again, I definitely have my days, especially trying to work on my businesses and homeschool whilst continuing to be a good wife and mother. It is tiring and oftentimes stressful. I recently spoke with someone about this issue I have about feeling like I was going to go crazy and she suggested I, get this, get organized!!! What, the nerve! But I took her advice and spent the last week in June creating a slew of schedules that I implemented starting July 1st. And although it is only the second of July, my life has never been so smooth sailing, even before the RushBunch. We stick to those schedules like my life depends on it (because I think it does). This is the second night where nine o’clock hit and all of my children are asleep. This feels like heaven! If I keep this up, this may not be the last Rush out of me yet [LIES].

I am so grateful for her and her wise words to me. Now I am like a child in a candy store; excited to get to bed before one a.m.

Lets talk statistics.

Now let me first say, I must be out of my mind to talk statistics in  my blog because I don’t have many readers as is so to add a mathematical conversation is almost insane. I’m about to lose the two followers I DO have.

But hear me out, at least halfway through, I think this is important.

Many of you know about my Consulting Firm. I have been revamping and perfecting over the last few weeks and I tend to come across some very important information from time to time and I like to share. As my children say in their failed attempts to guilt me into rationing off my food, “Sharing is caring” <– thanks Barney!

As a person of color, I am all too aware of the negative statistics constantly shoved in my face in attempts to make me believe many things but among them, that we, Reflections, tend to be lazy. Now, if for no other reason than the simple fact that I nor my husband are this way, I have always refused to believe that. Please do not misinterpret that to say that none of us are because I have definitely run across my share in my past life, my past life being naive and young. But the general population of Reflections are far from lazy. I could get off track and mention that no one ever felt like we were lazy when we were ‘building this joint for free’, in the words of Angela Ray. But I will stay the course and continue with my knowledgeable rant of improper and misused statistics.

Did you know that there were over 2.5 BILLION businesses owned by Reflections? Bet you didn’t. Did you know that we owned more businesses than Asians? Yup, MORE, despite the fact that you can find a restaurant or nail salon on just about any corner in poverty stricken neighborhoods?

Forbes just did an article on the top 10 black billionaires….. the top TEN which means there are more than 10, and guess what, your commonly known hip hopper, rapper, and television personalities did not make the list, nor did your Athletic heroes.

It used to be stated that if you don’t want a black man [or woman] to know something, put it in a book. But with so many people reading more, now its just, ‘don’t let them see it’. You lose hope when you continue pushing and don’t see a prosperous end or you don’t see anyone you know, directly or indirectly, making it quite like you believe you should. We cannot let this hinder us from pressing on.

I push my business so much and I do not see much, if any, growth but I do not let that deter me. I know I offer a great service backed by an amazing brand, and on those days that I have no clients to work for, I work on my own business as if I am a client (unless its doing my business plan because THAT thing is not happening). But you have to remember, every business that has succeeded, has done so because they caught someones eye. How can you catch someones eye if you quit. You can’t quit. The only person who loses most when you quit is you, aren’t you tired of feeling like you are always losing? When you start a business the only way you will ever lose is if you quit, so don’t quit and if you want to quit, call me, I’ll give you reasons why you shouldn’t quit. I guarantee it.