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Between making the decision to put my children in school this year and pushing out thos new membership I have, there is a lot to do. Plus, I am actually sticking to my weight loss journey, so I am all over the place in a new way, and I am not sure I like it.

For those who don’t know, I have been homeschooling my crew since 2016, so most of my children have never seen the inside of a school, much less had to endure the doctrine that is school. They are super excited for the new adventure, but I have been hella focused on what this will look like because it’s confusing. All of the things they have taken out of curriculum and replaced especially as it pertains to Black people and America. I foresee that I will be taking them back out not too long after I put them in.

This is what homeschooling is about, though. Allowing the children to engross themselves into new experiences. To be honest, I’m sick about it. School is not what it used to ne and to top it off were in the south which, to me, means the education they will receive is subpar. That’s my opinion. But I have a backup plan in place.

As far as the new membership I am promoting, I have made some tweaks and added some perks, so it’s better than it was 100%. My goal is to get 25 people to sign up this month. If you want to read more about it, go to http://www.BecomingHabitual.com

My weight loss journey is coming along nicely. I am losing slowly, which is not ideal in my mind, but I know realistically it has its perks. It is more likely to stay off, and it reduces the likelihood of excess saggy skin. This is a fear of many overweight people, especially women, but I am preparing for it and ready to embrace it as a triumph.

What are you working on this month?

So I didn’t blog yesterday because I damn near slept all day. 😬

Okay, not really all day because one of my besties had a boss brunch, so I did get up for that, but we also had bottomless mimosas, so there’s that. When I got home, I grabbed Kera and laid down for a nap. I woke up once, and it was back to sleep for me. Perhaps they had melatonin in them. 🤔 Im tryna tell yall it was the best Sunday EVER!

I never know what I want to do on my birthday, wait, yes I do, it’s just never in the cards. For starters, I had a job interview today, yes, chile, a job interview because RCF isn’t bringing in enough for my liking, and I need some supplemental income cause I got big goals.

We were supposed to go to the little bitro just McRush and I but me being mister nice guy decided to bring the kids along so we went somewhere more economical, a buffet. Then we went to lowes for a part, and here I am back home, blogging. Ahhhh. The humdrum of parenting. 🙃

I don’t mind these days because I know better days are coming. We have a house in mind and business expansion, and that’s what I am focused on, not big spender birthday dinners.

I know I keep saying it, but foreal, I’m going back to school. I start in the fall. I am also putting the children in school, so it’s a lot going on come the fall, but I am ready. I truly believe that I thrive netter in organized chaos. So keep me in prayer because here goes nothing.

Hey. Let’s talk about why you don’t reach your goals.
You are setting them wrong. Most of the time, you set an outcome as a goal. When you do this, you get flustered when you don’t reach it. You get upset because what you’re doing isn’t getting to the goal. You get lost in not knowing what to do to reach the goal.
The problem is not the goal. The problem is not you. The problem is not the work or loss of motivation. The problem is you are going about it wrong.

If you set a goal to lose weight, then what? You have to figure out what to eat, when to eat, count calories, what exercises to do, when to do them, and how often
And all of this is true. You will need to do all of this anyway. But that’s the thing. When you do all of this with losing weight as the goal, you will get discouraged the moment you miss an exercise, eat the wrong thing, and the scale didn’t go down. And that is the problem. See, the reason you get so easily discouraged is because you did not see the result you wanted by the end of the day; lose weight.
Losing weight was never the goal. Losing weight is the result of the goal.
It’s all in the why. WHY do you want to lose weight. That’s the key.  I want to feel better about myself. I want to be able to play with my children without being out of breath. I want to walk up the stairs without my knee hurting. Those are the goals. These are what you call smart goals. Specific measurable attainable realistic timely.
Doing your goals this way will help keep you motivated BECAUSE your discipline is not stressed because of lack of it. Every day that you work out, you will feel better about yourself, goal #1 accomplished. This will create the urge to repeat the process until you see the result: weight loss. This ideology can be applied to anything you want to do, plus it simplifies the steps so it’s less guess work and more action.

I had this epiphany about myself today. I thought I’d share in case it brings you as much clarity as it brought me. 😉

Today my sister wanted me to go to the beach with her. I hate the beach. It’s dirty and overcrowded, not to mention I have to keep an eye out for the babies of mine who think that they can swim. 🙄 But we went, and the kids enjoyed themselves. My mom and dad were in town, so it was a good family outing. The highlight of my day, though, was my best friend asked me to come over, and we haven’t hung out in forever, so I definitely was game.

It was a much needed break from everyday life. We talked for hours about our goals and fears, our ambitions, and what holds us back. We laughed and almost cried. I forgot how good it feels to just be able to talk without the constant interruptions of mom or phones ringing. I definitely need to do this more often. Not the beach, though, because eww, sand.

I have to remember to step away from the obligations of serving and show up for me.