Here is another conversation I wound up in because clearly I am glutton for punishment. Your Thoughts?
Scenario: You get a call from school that your 5yr old son hit a little girl in the face, whats your disciplinary move?
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Maisha Rush Children fight. They’ll be friends the next day. I would ask questions. Did she hit you? If not we will discuss how hitting someone is only for defending yourself in a situation of physical abuse. Our urge to discipline leads to anger which leads to abuse (from the child to adult) we need to start using these opportunities to TALK.
Jonny Graham Say it was just his response to something other than her striking him?
Maisha Rush Ask him why he felt compelled to hit her. Did what she did make him mad? If so, ask him why. Then ask him how he thinks he could have better handled it. Let him work it out so you are teaching AND guiding him to make better decisions. Problem solving.
Jonny Graham If that works for you I’m all for it, I will handle it the same but the difference is the palm of the hand he used gone feel the way that lil girl face felt, thats just me though.
Lisa BestGroup Admin The little girl could have spit in his damn face. You just enjoy beating the fuck out of your seeds. Just looking for a reason. You are brainwashed and your children will hate you
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😡Maisha Rush We love playing master and slave. Being a parent is about nurturing, encouraging, uplifting, communicating, and most importantly showing our love through our actions. I have 9 with one on the way which means I have many personalities to deal with and one thing I know is that the aforementioned parental attributes work on them all equally.
Maisha Rush You are NOT disciplining him, you are teaching him (with your actions) to not stand up for himself, to not demand he be respected regardless of race gender or religion. These,king are the very attributes that are making our children and young generation cowardice and walking targets to being treated any way because they feel like it is a bad thing to stand up for themselves and be respected.
Jonny Graham If he did this in response to anything other than a physical attack on him, he is the agressor and I dont uphold children in their wrong, the lesson I teach is keep your hands to yourself, and if you dish it you got to be able to take it. I realize that its not always the other person started it, and when I find out I handle it, and that doesnt make me abusive because in the meantime and between time I provide his every want and need, children dont do what they want to do, only what is allowed with me, somebody dont like it come take em to your house and raise em, I turned out just fine and so did my children, who are Grown and one has a child of her own.
Lisa BestGroup Admin You did not turn out fine. You are a child abuser with a closed mine . I feel sick for your children
Maisha Rush I have [10] whats one more. You asked my opinion, I gave it. A parent should feel some type of pain, anger, remorse, or regret when succumbing to hitting their child as if to ponder, there has to be a better way. Abuse begat abuse. Some of the most abused children are best “taken care of” that does not negate the abuse.
Jonny Graham Why are you so full of hate, you don’t know me , why do you attack ME so cavaleirly, everybody entitlted to theyre own opinion, you dont have to agree but damn, at least respect it, if you suppose to be for your people, all I’m speaking is the lack of discipline that children are receiving is the reason we are loosing them early , and we need to get back to that but you calling your own people coons and all this instead of trying to shed some of this light you have that illuminates these black men and women to be coons in your eyes.
Jonny Graham Yall do know that they just made that a law not long ago in the 90’s, you got your ass tore up at school too, you cant sheild kids from all pain and I dont care how perfect you think you are as a parent you’ll never raise the perfect person, we come here flawed, I really dont see no young people growing up wanting to be nothing anymore but rappers, drug addicts gang members, and ball players, being a part of a big distraction pool for the powers that be, Me and most all the people I grew up with are Business Professionals and Owners but we came from the Ghetto slum and got ass whippings though…
Briana Abbott Beat his ass cause your growing a man not a pussy……no man should put his hands on a woman
Lisa BestGroup Admin Bye Briana Abbott adults talking. We are speaking on children not grown men, slaves.
Maisha Rush Perfection is a fallacy. The only perfection you can attain is when you are being and doing your best. No one in their right mind can believe they are raising perfection. I never said that. I homeschool my children and my three oldest already own their own businesses because of the mindset I approach them with and teach them. I not only run my own business but teach other reflections to do the same. None of my children want to be anything mainstream as you mentioned. Its a mindset. You are teaching him that hitting IS appropriate. You call it discipline and so does he. He disciplined her for whatever he felt she did wrong. Just think about it King. I am not saying that no child needs their but popped from time to time but I implore you to talk it out. Life is about learning lessons not being beaten into submission. Haven’t we endured enough of that? You don’t want your child to do something because you are making them do it. You want them to do it because they have the wherewithal to assess the situation and do it because he should. That’s perfection.
Lisa BestGroup Admin Says a wonderful mother of 10 and she homeschools all of them without beating them
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💯💯💯❤Jonny Graham Children most times dont know that they should or shouldn’t do something and if its something that is important enough yes Ill make them do it till they understand how important it is and do it on theyre own. You cant reasonably expect all children to be the kind you can talk to all the time , children whose parents dont half ass watch em end up being around and seeing different things and if they go to school they are exposed to alot of other kids whose parents are loose and slack and before you know youre dealing with behaviors that he or she may be mimicking, I dont beat children ass for Everything , like some trying to assume, but a switch is on the menu because I must maintain control because he is my responsibility, and they need to know that they need to conduct themselves like they got some home training and if you buck me I want ass. for at least 18yrs he get a free ride on me , when you grown leave , while you here, I run it. You’ll never have me round here trying to beg and negotiate with no kid of mine. You just need to do what you instructed until I feel you are old enough and learned enough to be given some freedom privileges
Your thoughts?
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