Do you know why so many of us oftentimes have this overwhelming feeling, most times later in life, going on a journey to ‘find’ ourselves? Its not just some old cliche people use as an excuse to travel the world backpacking or dodge responsibilities one day. I believe it is actually a legitimate feeling, rather knowing, that you are not the person you always thought you were.
Alas, all these years you have given yourself the illusion that you are one way when all the while you are another person entirely. No, not like Bruce Wayne as to Batman but literally. Its seems all your life you have been ‘Simone’, the outspoken, responsive, always vibrant party girl but sometimes you really want to sit down with a big book and some hot cocoa and be alone for the weekend. However, you have set yourself up to be the way you are for as long as you could remember. Heck, even your parents partied every other weekend and they seemed perfectly happy with the person they have become. Clearly it can’t be bad. And what about your friends? They are going to think you are crazy to just up and change your entire life for no reason. You’ll have no friends. You’ll be alone. But unbeknownst to you there is a reason. It’s called happiness. We are so used to locking ourselves into one type of way that we create a fear within ourselves that we cannot change. We cannot become who we want to be so we get stuck trying to maintain the person we no longer desire to be.
I know I went deep on you tonight but I want this to resonate with you. I want you to know, see, and realize that it is you who controls your happiness. If you have a day job working in an office from morning to evening and you secretly always wanted to own a hair salon for the rich and ratchet, then DO IT! We are so fixated on what other people are thinking or how other people are going to react to us or change on us that we keep trying to make other people happy while placing our own true desires in the background of life.
So what they don’t want to be your friend anymore. So what your family will disown you. At the end of the day the only thing you control in your life is your happiness. It is easier said than done, I know, trust me, I know. The worst thing that you can do with your life is live it for someone else though. If you don’t believe me, just ask me and I will tell you again.
My business is in the business of helping you not just recognize your strengths but build upon them to help you be the best you that you can be without limitations or feelings of guilt. God only made one of you so show Him that you are proud of it by being all that wants you to be and more. Happy.
Its funny that I teach this to people on a daily basis but I cannot get my son to see it. Teenagers.
“Life Can Be Beautiful.” S.C. Madison