dailyprompt

List five things you do for fun.

Oh this is a wild one because it varies even in my life.

My life goes so fast I don’t even realize I had fun until I’m talking to somebody about it. 🤷🏾‍♀️

When I was younger, the five things I did for fun was club hop, drink, hang out with my best friend which probably entailed flirting with some random guys, joy ride with no destination, and people watching. You know, when you critique the people walking by while we sat on the patio. 🤣

As I got older, the five things that I like to do would absolutely bore the younger me. Researching which usually sends me down a ridiculous rabbit hole that will last for weeks until I get an explanation I am satisfied with. Reading, learning new languages, actually resting my body, and sleep. Its sounds like a laid back life but its so exciting. 🫣

NOW, in addition to those things, I do anything that makes a memory. With my husband, my children, and my friends. This includes things I would never think of like skydiving.

I feel like, at 47, married and with 12 children, I have already lived a full life so now my “fun” focus is on creating memories to hold my loved ones through the grief of me no longer being here.

For example, I spent new years eve this year dressed all up and having a tea party with my littlest girls, 3, 5, and 6. That’s my new fun.

Fun is what you make it and making things fun IS fun.

M.

What makes a good leader?

This is such a good question to which there are many avenues to the right answer.

Some will say compassion. Compassion is good but can lead to someone who may bend the rules or look the other way. Compassion means that you are leading with emotion, which Compassion is, and that is not a good thing overall as a leader.

Some will say honesty. Also good, but honesty can be brutal if not given the right way under the right circumstances with the right person. That’s just too many variables to lay on a leader as a sole quality.

Some will say work ethic. This is a great but oftentimes does not balance out for a good leader. Having a great work ethic is good for a business but being a leader isn’t about business, its about leading.

Bottom line is, there are many points that will go into being a good leader but really, it depends on the type of leader you need.

Any attribute desired for this “good leader” must be divisible. Meaning he or she must know when to apply the qualities of each and just how much.

Overall, a good leader should have a sense of discernment so that they can take any quality they have and apply it to a particular situation as needed.

M.

Where can you reduce clutter in your life?

So, the prompt is “Where can you reduce clutter in your life?”. As a wife and mom of 12, this is so on par for me because anything in excess with a family my size is clutter. So, quarterly we do an entire overhaul. Kitchen, living room, bathrooms, and rooms. But as far as the children in addition to that, if they haven’t used it in a month- trash. If its been tucked away for 6 months- trash. If they have lost interest- trash.

And I know someone is going to say “how wasteful of you”. And to that I say…. bite me. 🤣

I give away what I can and really only buy what we need so its not as drastic as it sounds. I also indulge my children in their hobbies and ideas. But, you know children, given the space to expand and change their minds, they will. They don’t feel obligated to stick to something that no longer brings them joy.  It allows for growth and deeper learning of themselves.

Spoiled? Sure. On my dime and I do what I want sooooo… 🤷🏾‍♀️

If you’re not using it, its trash. Keeping in mind that one man’s trash is another man’s treasure. Just not through Goodwill. 🥴

M.

What is your mission?

I don’t know what my mission is. Half the time I’m questioning whether God even exists. I would like to leave a legacy but isn’t that vain? “I want to live a life that people will remember me”. You don’t find that suspicious? Im just living with the goal to make memories with the ones I love so that they have happy memories to get them through their grief. That’s it. If I make a trillion dollars I’d probably give it away. If I find myself poor, I’ll live in a box analyzing the decisions I made that got me there. So what is a mission for? Im not Ethan Hunt. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Just my two cents which by the way aren’t worth much because we canceled pennies. 🥴

What would you do if you lost all your possessions?

If I lost all of my possessions, I would turn out even better than I am now, and that’s a pretty high bar.

See, I already lost all of my possessions once, and it taught me to have courage, strength, and audacity because no one is here to save you. People are not even obligated to help you.

First, you have to learn from your mishaps, what got you to the point of losing your possessions in the first place, and then learn from them. That means creating a strategy to keep it from happening again. I mean, who really knows how many lives we have already lived just to redo what we have done and possibly get it right this time. Is that what deja Vu is? (sp?)

This is how I know I will be better than I am now. I am a strategist. Even outside of certification, I am a natural strategist. I am always thinking and analyzing, even reconfiguring how something can be done differently, more effectively. I love it.

Now, this is not to say that I WANT to lose all of my possessions, just answering the call on WordPress and giving my opinion.

Take the value you need and discard the rest. ❤️